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Are limiting beliefs and self-doubt holding you back? Have you ever felt like you didn't belong or questioned your own worth? You're not alone.
In this powerful episode of Recounting Life Lessons, Hailima Yates—mindset coach, transformational speaker, and author of Dissolving the Anchor—shares her deeply personal journey of overcoming feelings of unworthiness, battling suicidal thoughts, and ultimately transforming her mindset to reclaim her power.
Growing up, Hailima struggled with rejection, microaggressions, and feeling invisible, which led her to internalize the belief that she didn't matter. But through self-reflection, mindset shifts, and intentional action, she found a way to break free—and now she helps others do the same.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
- How to shift from reacting to life to intentionally creating it
- The power of mindset transformation and how to rewrite your internal narrative
- Practical tools for self-reflection, self-worth, and personal growth
- Why your Reticular Activating System (RAS) influences your success
- How to identify and release the anchors weighing you down
- How to navigate feelings of loneliness, self-doubt, and suicidal thoughts
Plus, we discuss forgiveness, resilience, and the power of choice—so you can start showing up as the empowered hero of your own life.
A Quick Note: This episode touches on the topic of suicide, which may be triggering for some listeners. If you are struggling, please reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by dialing 988 or text HOME to 741741 for confidential support.
Listen now and learn how to dissolve the anchors holding you back!
5 success principles for Breaking free from self-doubt
- Cultivate Self-Awareness: Identify where your self-doubt comes from. Question the beliefs you've internalized and ask, Is this really true?
- Rewire Your Inner Dialogue: Replace negative self-talk with empowering affirmations. Speak to yourself like you would a close friend.
- Take Intentional Action: Confidence is built through action. Set small, achievable goals to prove to yourself that you are capable.
- Embrace Failure as Growth: Shift your mindset to see setbacks as stepping stones. Every challenge is an opportunity to learn and improve.
- Surround Yourself with Empowerment: Limit time with people who reinforce doubt. Instead, seek mentors, books, and environments that uplift you.
Breaking free from self-doubt is a journey, but with these principles, you'll step into your power and start owning your worth!
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Golden nuggets from this episode:
Hailima's story is such a powerful reminder that no matter what we've been through, we have the ability to rewrite our narrative and take back our power. Before we wrap up, let's highlight three golden nuggets from this episode.
- You have a choice: One of the most empowering realizations we can have is that we are not just passive participants in life—we are active creators of our reality. Hailima shared how shifting from simply reacting to life to choosing how she responded was a game-changer. Try this: Take a moment today to reflect—are there areas in your life where you've been reacting instead of intentionally choosing? Identify one decision you can make this week that aligns with who you want to become.
- Your mindset is the foundation of everything: Hailima walked us through how our self-perception is shaped by experiences, societal influences, and what we've been told about ourselves. But the good news? You can rewrite the narrative. Try this: Start by questioning the beliefs that hold you back. Ask yourself, "Where did I learn this? Is it really true? Do I want to keep believing this?" Awareness is the first step to transformation.
- Self-worth isn't something you earn—it's something you own: Hailima's journey proves that our worth isn't dictated by external validation or achievements. It's something we must claim for ourselves. Try this: Try the mirror exercise Hailima mentioned—look at yourself and say, "You matter. I love you." It might feel awkward at first, but over time, this practice can help rewire your inner dialogue and strengthen your self-love.
"The people you share your adventures with will either make or break them."
connect with Hailima Yates
Want to reach out to Hailima, follow along on her journey, read her book, or work with her?
Grab a copy of Dissolving the Anchor here
Hailima's website: https://www.hiyates.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hiyates/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hiyates
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hailima-yates/
Resources mentioned in this episode
final thoughts: you have the power
Breaking free from self-doubt isn't about waiting for confidence to magically appear—it's about taking intentional steps to shift your mindset, challenge limiting beliefs, and build self-trust. As we learned from this episode, self-doubt often stems from past experiences, external influences, and internalized narratives that tell us we're not enough. But the truth is, you have the power to rewrite your story.
By applying the five success principles—cultivating self-awareness, rewiring your inner dialogue, taking intentional action, embracing failure as growth, and surrounding yourself with empowerment—you can start dismantling the thoughts that hold you back. Each small step you take builds momentum, helping you shift from reacting to life to intentionally creating it. Remember, self-worth isn't something you have to earn—it's something you own. When you start seeing yourself through a lens of possibility rather than limitation, you'll realize that you were always capable. You just had to believe it.
If this message resonated with you, take the next step—reflect on where you are, challenge the doubts that no longer serve you, and choose to move forward with intention. You are the hero of your own story.
Stay tuned for more inspiring episodes as we and people from all walks of life share their experiences and we identify the lessons, blessings, and success principles that life is providing—lessons that we can all take advantage of and learn from if we pay attention.
If you're ready to step into your full potential, make sure to listen to the episode and share it with someone who could benefit from this powerful message. And don't forget to subscribe to Recounting Life Lessons and jump onto our Insider email list for more insights, actionable tips, and empowering stories.
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